It’s time to get personal with you for a minute. Personal Fridays.
Two-plus years ago I started thinking a different way about how I wanted to spend my time. When I was 34, my wife and I had just moved into a new house, and I realized we didn’t really have any money.
Debt on the credit card, debt on the new house, having used our savings to put a minimum down payment on it.
The credit card bill was more than what was in the savings account. Of course, we both had jobs, so we weren’t really that worried about it, but it was a bit frustrating for me, and I believe eye-opening for her.
This undesirable financial situation really caused me to take a deep look at my behavior and how I had been spending my time and money over the previous decade.
For anyone who really knows me, you know that from 2004 – 2015 I was absolutely obsessed with Fantasy Football. In 2006, I turned that obsession into a very productive entrepreneurial endeavor and sometimes lucrative business, and justified the obsession by acquiring useful marketing skills and business experience that has helped me in my career, but in late 2015 it started to get worse.
I was playing daily fantasy football for 2-3 years in a row, literally trying to win $1 million on Fanduel and Draft Kings. I was already addicted to Fantasy Football, but if you’ve ever played Daily Games, it’s 10 times worse, and riskier to lose a ton of money while trying to win a ton of money.
My behavior finally changed after my brain realized what I was truly doing late in 2015.
I was simply justifying my obsession by saying, “well, I know a lot about Fantasy Football, so I could win the money that our family needs, etc.”
What I really was doing, and this is the punch line of the article, is I was focusing all of my time and resources on things I could not control. I was essentially betting on the performance of grown ass men who have no effing clue who I am.
On New Year’s Eve of 2015, at a friend’s wedding (more in the audio version), I truly became motivated to take control of my life, and put the ball in my court. I realized I needed to focus on what I could control.